Would You Marry Yourself or Someone Like You?

  The act of recovery means living life on life’s terms. At times this means disappointing ourselves and/or another. Recovery...

Stop Talking Guns and Start Talking Mental Illness

  I am a clinician who treats complex post traumatic stress and traumatic foundations of sex addiction.  So, I know mental illness...

For The Love of Money

IITAP Symposium, Scottsdale, AZ, February 15, 2012 For the Love of Money: Exploring Monetized Rage and Sexual Exploitation in Relationship...

Sex, Love and Attachment

Excerpt from Debra’s book due 2013.   I’m often asked in therapy (with deep reluctance and trepidation) if it’s a...

Emotional Incest and The Relationship Avoidant

One area of therapeutic focus that often escapes detection and close scrutiny is the issue of emotional incest and/or covert sexual abuse. Yet, as pervasive as emotional incest is, the topic goes undetected as a core antecedent for many clients’ relational issues.