Sex, Love and Attachment

Excerpt from Debra’s book due 2013.   I’m often asked in therapy (with deep reluctance and trepidation) if it’s a pre-requisite of therapy to explore childhood issues. “That depends,” I say. “I have no desire to dwell in your past but I certainly believe that revisiting or exploring your past childhood relationships might help us…

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Emotional Incest and The Relationship Avoidant

One area of therapeutic focus that often escapes detection and close scrutiny is the issue of emotional incest and/or covert sexual abuse. Yet, as pervasive as emotional incest is, the topic goes undetected as a core antecedent for many clients’ relational issues.

A Look Back to the Future: 9/11 Revisited

September 11, 2011 as with the yearly anniversaries before it, is a time that I reflect on life. I reflect on how life unfolds and the twists and turns that become our own story. I lost acquaintances and colleagues on September 11, 2001. I am grateful that I did not lose family but I am ever so mindful for those that did.

Sexual Addiction vs. Sex Offending

Trained and experienced therapists among us who treat organic, sexual disorders and sexual compulsivity grapple with the theoretical and real-life meaning and definition of human behavior. No two therapists may see eye to eye on what constitutes a clinical description for sex addiction—an issue currently debated before the American Psychiatric Association.

Borderline Personality and Sex Addiction – Interesting Bedfellows

Few spouses comport themselves with grace in the face of betrayal, yet the insinuation or diagnosis of borderline disorder is all too readily affixed. And by brandishing the borderline label, the clinical community serves to reactivate the emotional wounding and reinjure the person already reeling from betrayal and violation.

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