Coupleship Inc. Videocast

Debra Kaplan and Rick Kahler, bring their unique clinical and financial perspectives to this videocast series based on their book, Coupleship Inc: From Financial Conflict to Financial Intimacy. In each episode, Deb and Rick delve into a different topic and bring their book to life to help couples successfully navigate financial conflict toward a healthy Coupleship Inc.

How To Create Financial Intimacy in Relationship

A romantic relationship is one of the most important emotional commitments of our lives. It is also the most important financial decision of our lifetime.

Why It’s So Hard To Talk About Money

Deb and Rick share their thoughts about why couples have a difficult time talking about money, and how couples can benefit from reading Coupleship Inc. Segment topics: Emotions, Money Beliefs and Behaviors.

A Merger Between Two Individuals

Each person’s life is a separate company with managers and employees. When two people come together in a romantic relationship they are merging their two separate companies into one organization. Deb and Rick discuss how each individual can begin to understand themselves and their partner to create a successful romantic and financial merger.

Coupleship Inc: Our Money Scripts Part I

Deb and Rick explore how childhood experiences influence who we are and what we learn about money. These beliefs and behaviors are conscious and unconscious and become what is referred to as Money Scripts.

Coupleship Inc: Our Money Scripts Part II

Deb and Rick continue their discussion about Money Scripts and how partner’s scripts operate. The authors also briefly delve into four common money categories; Money Vigilance, Money Avoidance, Money Worship and Money Status.

Coupleship Inc: Workaholism and Shopping / Spending Part I

“I work long hours because I’m passionate about work!” Or, “I promise I won’t be home late!” In this segment, Rick and Deb take on the topic of money behaviors beginning with workaholism, the difference between someone who is passionate about work and a someone who may be a workaholic. Of particular interest in this segment is the Klontz Money Behavior Inventory (KMBI). Their conversation shifts to what is compulsive shopping/spending versus compulsive buying.

Coupleship Inc: Workaholism and Shopping / Spending Part II

Deb and Rick continue their conversion about work. They share what a therapist and financial planner do to help couples resolve conflict, and create awareness about problematic working, workaholism and problematic spending.

Coupleship Inc: The Psychology of Compulsive Behavior

Compulsive behaviors are often the result of an individual’s need to self-medicate unresolved wounds. In this segment, the psychology of compulsive behaviors is explained through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS). Couples can learn to understand their own and their partner’s inner conflicts. Deb and Rick describe how Coupleship Inc. can use tools from IFS to heal their financial conflicts and underlying wounds. Topics: Internal Family Systems (IFS) and parts work.

Coupleship Inc: Compulsive Gambling and Gaming Part I

Gambling and gaming for many individuals, couples and families are an enjoyable endeavor. For some, gambling or gaming can become impulsive, compulsive or part of an unhealthy cycle. In Part I of “Compulsive Gambling and Gaming,” Deb and Rick discuss the potential warning signs of problematic behavior. They talk about what questions one might consider to assess whether healthy behaviors are becoming problematic, compulsive or addictive.

Coupleship Inc: Compulsive Gambling and Gaming Part II

Part II of “Compulsive Gambling and Gaming,” continues with the negative consequences to consider when to determine whether a behavior—such as gambling or gaming, is a problem, compulsive or addictive. The authors take on another money behavior detailed in Coupleship Inc.; hoarding. Rick steps into the client’s seat for an impromptu session in the second half of the segment to answer his question; do I have a hoarding issue, or do I just like to collect objects of sentimental value?