About Sex Addiction

Sex addiction often has its roots in unresolved early childhood trauma and must be taken seriously. Left untreated sexual trauma, complex-post traumatic stress, emotional incest and abuse may lead to an escalation of the behaviors which can result in loss of relationships, injury and death. When treated, individuals, couples and families go on to live sexually happy and healthy lives.  Certain behaviors  indicate the presence of a sexual addiction. According to Sex Addicts Anonymous, a fellowship based on the  basic principles of recovery found in the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous, there are several indications to look for when deciding to seek help:http://www.dreamstime.com/royalty-free-stock-photography-thoughtful-man-image23156537

  • Powerlessness over addictive sexual behavior.
  • Unmanageability of his/her life.
  • Feelings of shame, pain and self-loathing.
  • Failed promises and attempts to stop acting out.
  • Preoccupation with sex leading to ritual.
  • Progressive worsening of negative consequences.
Am I a Sex Addict? (Assessment for Men) (Assessment for Women)

What is Sex and Love Addiction?

Sex and love addiction refers to an addictive compulsion to engage in (or avoid) sex, love, or emotional attachment.  As with sex addiction, love addiction also has its roots in unresolved early childhood trauma.  Healthy romantic relationships grow out of a healthy friendship, but addictive relationships are based on fear of abandonment and rejection by romantic partner. This fear of rejection or abandonment sets up a destructive pattern of relating. People involved in addictive sexual and romantic relationships use sex and love as a way to manipulate the other in order to avoid the loss of the person or the relationship.  This results in an compulsive “dance” between the love avoidant and the love addict. Click here to read the twelve characteristics of sex and love addiction.Preoccupied Attachment   Debra is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor (CSAT-S) and serves as faculty member for Dr. Patrick Carnes’ International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP). Dr. Carnes’ International Institute provides cutting-edge training to promote an international standard for sex addiction treatment and other related disorders. Debra  is a noted writer and lecturer in the fields of trauma and sex addiction. Her skill and extensive expertise treating  sex addiction, pornography, and love and relationship addiction has helped couples and individuals find healing and resolution. She is also a full member of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH), and the EMDR International Association (EMDRIA).

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